"Raise your expectations. Elongate your process. Lay on your death bed with a to-do list a mile long and smile at the infinite opportunity granted to you. Create ridiculous standards for yourself and then savor the inevitable failure. Learn from it. Live it. Let the ground crack and rocks crumble around you because that’s how something amazing grows, through the cracks."
Jonathan Franzen, The Corrections
Fark this is good.
"I said in the beginning: the reason for our loving God is God. I spoke the truth, for he is both prime mover of our love and final end. He is himself our human love’s occasion; he also gives the power to love, and brings desire to its consummation. He is himself the loveable in his essential being, and gives himself to be the object of our love. He wills our love for him to issue in our bliss, not to be void and vain. His love both opens up the way for ours and is our love’s reward. How kindly does he lead us in love’s way, how generously he returns the love we give, how sweet he is to those who wait for him!"
Bernard of Clairvaux, ‘On the Love of God (via both-seeker-and-sought)
Joan Crawford in Possessed (1931)
82 years later and it’s still relevant
This will never not be relevant.
82 years and we still have to fucking tell men this shit
"Women hear it all the time from men. “You’re overreacting,” we tell them. “Don’t worry about it so much, you’re over-thinking it.” “Don’t be so sensitive.” “Don’t be crazy.” It’s a form of gaslighting — telling women that their feelings are just wrong, that they don’t have the right to feel the way that they do. Minimizing somebody else’s feelings is a way of controlling them. If they no longer trust their own feelings and instincts, they come to rely on someone else to tell them how they’re supposed to feel."